Britt Reid: Some Amends Can Only Be Lived | The Confidence Question Ep. 6

Britt Reid: My two biggest amends that I need to make, I can't make them. I can't physically call my brother or go see my brother and say, "Hey, I'm sorry for introducing you to the drug that killed you." So Britt Reid, we're going to start off with our main question we ask everyone.

Dr. Tyler Hales: Tell me about a moment you were the least confident person in the room.

Britt Reid: I would say when I got out of prison, my confidence was pretty low, and I had some stipulations to my parole which had requirements of getting a job and going to these classes and stuff like that. And so the job thing I wasn't too worried about, right? I had about a month to find a job, and if I didn't find a job, I could be violated and sent back to prison. But again, here I am in Kansas City and my dad just won back-to-back Super Bowls. I'm thinking, how hard could it be to find a job in Kansas City? And as I, as I got into the process, everybody I called, all the applications I filled out, it became pretty apparent pretty quickly that no one really wanted anything to do with me. And so I was already at a low point. I'd lost my career in football. I had lost my family while I was in prison. My wife divorced me, and so when I got out of prison, my confidence was very low, and that definitely didn't help things. So I would say when I got out of prison, that's when my confidence was the lowest.

Dr. Tyler Hales: Yeah, in your experience with prison, would you say that confidence being in prison, or being in prison really affects your confidence? Like, is it the mindset kind of thing, or does it just play on you?

Britt Reid: Yeah.

Dr. Tyler Hales: How does that work?

Britt Reid: Prison is one of the most negative, violent environments on earth, and that negativity has a funny way of slowly seeping into guys, and they can leave there very negative, hardened people. And, you know, I knew I didn't want that, and I had been to jail when I was— when I was 20 years old, I got into an altercation. I ended up doing 6 months in the county jail, and so I knew what I was walking into. And so I had some things in my mind on how I would get past that and not let that negativity seep into me. And I wanted to leave prison a better person than I went in. And so, you know, I had done a lot of work prior to going to prison in my recovery. And throughout my recovery, I've come to believe in what I call the Holy Trinity of wellness, and that's spiritual, mental, and physical, right? I think all three of those have to be in balance for me to be at my best. And so prior to going to prison, I really dove into the spiritual aspect of things, and so I relied heavily on that when I was in prison, you know, just staying close to my higher power, God, and staying connected whether it's through the scriptures or through prayer every morning just to kind of ground me and ask for help. Hey, help me navigate this prison I'm in, and so that was a huge thing for me.

Dr. Tyler Hales: That's incredible. I love it. Well, I'm Dr. Tyler Hales, host of the Confidence Question podcast, and I feel super blessed to because today we have a really good friend of mine, Britt Reid. We grew up together. We've been family friends since I was born. Our parents met in college. So his dad is Andy Reid, and they were good friends. Went to— actually met in a class. They walked out their doors, realized they were going to the same class, and I think the rest was history.

Britt Reid: They've been friends ever since.

Dr. Tyler Hales: So we've had just an awesome relationship, and so I'm excited. Britt has an amazing story today. So Britt, when you talk a lot about doing the next right thing and kind of sharing your story about prison, when you're kind of at that low point, what was the next right thing that you did?

Britt Reid: At that point it was I knew I needed to move through prison. I needed to get through prison without taking something to affect me from the chin up, right? As an addict, as a, you know, someone that's been dependent on drugs and alcohol, it's real easy to take something to numb those feelings, and there was no place that I wanted to numb my feelings more than in prison, and so that's where it started was, hey, you know, you can get anything in prison, and I needed to stay away from that. There's more drugs in prison than there are on the streets.

Dr. Tyler Hales: Oh, wow.

Britt Reid: And so it really, it started there, and Just keep— to me, doing the next right thing was be a good person, right? Like, be aware of the people around you. Pick up those around you that are, you know, less unfortunate, a little bit down. If you see someone kind of hanging in their head, you know, try to pick them up a little bit. And to me, that was the only way that I could change the environment around me. You know, you're in a prison for a specific reason, and it's a punishment, you know. There's not a whole lot of rehabilitation in there, and so I had to be able to basically rely on stuff that I had worked on to get through some of that negativity and, you know, keep me grounded as much as possible. You know, so it all started with that spirituality though, you know, really kind of dialing into that and hanging on to that, you know.

Dr. Tyler Hales: Sometimes when we go back and we talk about it, right, we make it sound like it's sometimes easier than it is, right? Yeah. When you look at your life, would you say there's times when you felt like you were going to make that right decision and then kind of fell backwards?

Britt Reid: Yeah, you know, I would make these promises to myself that I wouldn't keep. And early in recovery, I learned that if I really wanted this thing to work, it was about keeping those little promises to myself. And every time I kept a little promise, right, my confidence would grow a little bit more and it'd give me a little bit more to grasp onto where when the next bump came, I could, I could weather that storm too. And so yeah, I mean, you just hang on to it.

Dr. Tyler Hales: It's a lot of small wins.

Britt Reid: Yeah, yep.

Dr. Tyler Hales: Right?

Britt Reid: Just build that confidence one win at a time.

Dr. Tyler Hales: Yeah, I feel like I was talking to my team earlier and I tell them, hey, it's easy to have confidence after winning a Super Bowl.

Britt Reid: That's right.

Dr. Tyler Hales: Right? Like you come out, you're the best in the world. But the hard part is that it's not all of a sudden that that's when the confident comes. Right? You can't win a Super Bowl and just have that expectation, I'm gonna have confidence once I win the Super Bowl, right? It's that confidence that comes from the day-to-day practices, the day-to-day, the little wins. And then I tell my team, I was like, we almost need to feel like we have that much confidence, the same confidence we have when we win a Super Bowl, as we do is like completing a pass or, or doing something small. Like, how do we look at that? Um, and I, and I think personally I struggle with that too. I always have massive expectations for myself, and I'm like, if I'm not hitting those, then I'm not doing enough, right? But it— that's when I feel like we can fall backwards, when we, we don't appreciate the little things.

Britt Reid: Yeah, I love that because I would talk to my players a lot about that, right? Like, and people ask me that, you know, how do you stay motivated, uh, in the NFL season to season? And, and that's difficult, but It is those little wins because you don't start the season off with 20 sacks, you know, you gotta reach that game by game and it's a grind, man. And the amount of times you have to rush the passer, right, to actually get one sack, it's not a high ratio, you know. And so, yeah, being able to identify those little victories, right, and those little victories just keep stacking and stacking and stacking, and the next thing you know, you're holding up that Lombardi Trophy, you know. But yeah, I think what's hard, uh, for some people is you set those, those huge goals, and they are hard to, uh, kind of quantify. Am I reaching this or am I not? And so if you can set those little goals within that bigger goal, now you have, you know, something to, hey, I'm working towards it, you know, I'm making some progress, and it just kind of fuels the fire, you know. And that was no different than in my recovery, man. Just do the next right thing, however big or small it was, just do it. And, you know, you can worry about the rest later.

Dr. Tyler Hales: So, you know, we're on this journey to understand where confidence comes from. And I remember going to your house growing up, and we went to— in the house in Philly, um, you guys had a sweet little lair down in the basement. That we go hang out with. Um, but what was it like from like a confidence standpoint when your dad was kind of a big coach, you know, and had this reputation? Um, what was it? Did you feel like you had more confidence or was that actually something hard to kind of live up to?

Britt Reid: You know, I, I think when I was younger it was hard to live up to, um, especially when, you know, later in Philly when my dad started winning a lot and all of a sudden, you know, most winningest coach in Eagles history and all that. You're like, geez, how do I live up to this? You know? And

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Britt Reid: I think it taught me that, hey, you know, anything is possible, right? Anybody can achieve anything. But are you willing to put the work in? Right? And it allowed me to see— I saw how hard my dad worked. You know, he didn't just end up becoming what he is overnight. There was a lot of hard work, you know, keeping those little promises to yourself and putting in the extra time to be an expert and be the best, you know. And so I think that helped shape me. I knew because of who my dad was. Listen, my dad coached me in Little League baseball, right? And I was the best kid on his team. I was the only kid that made the all-star team, but he was so hard on me. I mean, he was harder on me than anybody else. And so I realized, hey, he can't be hard on— or if he's not hard on me, he can't be hard on anybody else. And so I kind of took that into when I decided to get into coaching. Hey, you're going to have to work real hard, you know, because people are going to be— you're here because of your dad. And I never wanted that. And so again, I think it was just— it was a double-edged sword. You know, I knew the standard was going to be high, but I also— it taught me that you can reach that standard as long as you're willing to put in the work, and so I enjoyed it, you know, and there's a lot of good and bad that comes with it, but you just take them and try to navigate it all.

Dr. Tyler Hales: Yeah, so you're on the board of AARA. You speak at high schools. You go back to prisons. So what does service look like for you on like a Tuesday when no one's watching?

Britt Reid: Yeah, you know, to me, service work is a big part of my recovery. And in AA, the 12th step is giving back what was so freely given to you. And so whether it's, you know, talking to someone who's in recovery, who's new in recovery, or who wants to get into recovery, it could be something like that. Early on, you know, I was doing a lot of service work at these food banks and, you know, just trying to help people. I think when, for me, when I help someone, it takes me out of myself and it makes me realize, hey, your problems really aren't that bad. You know, we all have problems, everyone's dealing with stuff, and these people are still going about their business every day, fighting, grinding, trying to make a better life for each other, and I have no room to to complain about anything, you know, and so my service work on an average Tuesday, it could look very different depending on where I'm at and who I'm around, but just trying to uplift those, you know, servant leadership is what I call it, you know, lifting up those around you without anything in return, and so however I can help that, if it's opening a door for someone, or you know just listening, then that's the service work.

Dr. Tyler Hales: Have you ever had a time when you went and did some service for someone, and then that person actually made a bigger impact on your life?

Britt Reid: Man, I would say every interaction I have in service work has that effect because it gives me a perspective of life, and it allows me to really appreciate the things I have. I can't really think of anything specific right now. I might have to think about this when we come back to it, but yeah, I can't think of anything specific right now.

Dr. Tyler Hales: Yeah, I mean, I think anytime we look at service, right, it's hard because it's like we want to give, right? The idea is for service like, well, I want to give without getting anything in return, right? Every time that I do that, I always feel like I get more back than what I give.

Britt Reid: Absolutely.

Dr. Tyler Hales: Right?

Britt Reid: Absolutely.

Dr. Tyler Hales: But yet this world gets us so busy that a lot of times we feel like, well, service is almost the last thing we think about because we got to do all these other things to kind of keep check in our schedule and stuff.

Britt Reid: Yeah, I think service work can be as simple as texting someone that you think about, you know, and I know I've had that experience where you know, someone popped in my head and I texted them, and I later find out that they were really struggling, you know. And they, you know, I won't mention names, but a particular guy, I reached out, hey, how you doing, just thinking about you. The next day he texted me, he said, you have no idea how close I was to relapsing, I needed that. And so you don't know when you're of service sometimes, but just thinking of other people, putting someone else before yourself You can never go wrong with it, you know, and like you said, the payback is tenfold.

Dr. Tyler Hales: You really started to understand the confidence within service after your time in prison, or was there stuff growing up when you really were able to do a lot of service?

Britt Reid: Yeah, I think because of my dad's position, and his— he did a lot of work with the Special Embassy. He still does, but we got to go to a lot of those things, and so I got to see that service was important. You know, in our church, service work is very important. You know, we would once a month go do a service project, you know, and as young men, and so I think that was ingrained in me to, you know, those are just the morals and values I grew up with, and so in prison I would say one of the things

Britt Reid: you know, you're in there with some people that— there were a lot of guys that had no financial literacy. No— they had been locked up basically since they were 18 years old or before through juvenile and then into adult court, and so one of the ways I found I could be of service was just teaching these guys financial literacy. You know, some guys had never had a bank account. They didn't know that, you know, you could get your paycheck deposited into a bank account, you know, and they didn't know what a budget was. What do you mean? What's a budget? Well, you got this much coming in. Here's your bills. You know, so just teaching them things like that to, hey, give them a leg up when they got out. You know, the recidivism rate is so high because a lot of these guys get out and they don't have life skills. And so I think there's multiple ways to be of service, but that was one of the ways I found in prison to be of service, and guys were very appreciative. The weird thing was, is in prison everything is so transactional. So you do something for somebody and they feel like they have to pay you back. And that was unique for guys to, uh, handle when I would tell them, hey, I don't want anything, man, just pay it forward. What? Yeah, just pay it forward, help the next guy, you know. And so, you know, it was awesome that way to be able to semi-change the environment around me by just being a good person, you know, looking out for other people and trying to give back what I had without anything in return. Yeah, so I think service work is awesome, and I just— I think everyone, if we could be of service, this world would be a lot, a lot better place.

Dr. Tyler Hales: Oh, for sure. I know even if it works in prison, it's gonna work in the real world, right? And a lot of times we need that same idea here even more so. but a lot of times it's just transactional, right? People just see it as like for like, but I think there is— if you can pay it forward and teach that aspect to your kids or things, right? Absolutely. Would be much better.

Britt Reid: Absolutely.

Dr. Tyler Hales: So you're a good speaker. You've got the language. What's the thing about your life that no amount of good language could ever fix?

Britt Reid: Well, I mean, listen, I can't change the past, right? And, uh, everything— I would give just about anything to go back and change what happened on February 4th, 2021, um, but I can't, you know. And so, uh, you know, I think that would be the thing, you know. I wish I could go back and change that, but because I can't. All I can do is be the next— do the next right thing and be the best person I can be from that point moving forward. You know, part of my recovery is you make amends, right? And my two biggest amends that I need to make, I can't— I can't make them. I can't physically call my brother or go see my brother and say, hey, I'm sorry for introducing you to the drug that killed you. And I'm not legally allowed to contact that little girl or her family and say, "I'm sorry for the pain I've caused you."

Britt Reid: And so how do I make amends to these people? The only way I can do that is a living amends. How I live my life from that point moving forward is the only way I can say sorry to those people. And so that's a huge motivating factor in my recovery and doing the next right thing is I want to live my life in a way that, you know, I'm starting to get a little emotional, I don't know why, but I want to live my life in a way that, you know, would make my brother proud, but also in a way that maybe could help someone else or another family not have to go through what that family went through. And so, yeah, that's what— that's where I'm at. I know that was a long answer to a simple question, but I mean, there's always going to be regrets, right?

Dr. Tyler Hales: Like you said, you wish you could go say sorry or things like that. And have you seen where those— you've let those regrets affect your confidence? And then how do you like kind of overcome those?

Britt Reid: Yeah, I think so. I struggled with, with opiate addiction for a long time. And, and so that I knew I wasn't doing the right thing, and that slowly killed my confidence, right? Because those little promises to myself I wasn't keeping. I knew I shouldn't be doing what I'm doing. I wanted to stop and I couldn't stop. And, and so the confidence just kept, you know, getting lower and lower. And I think that's a lot of the issue with addiction and recovery is people feel so bad about themselves, the guilt and shame is so overwhelming, they don't know where to start. But you got to start. It's like eating a whale, you know, you can only do it one bite at a time and you got to start somewhere. So just pick a spot and jump into it. And so, I mean, that's what I had to peel back all these different layers that was essentially killing my confidence, you know, because I knew right from wrong. And so when I started to look into that and really dive into doing the work and learning how to forgive myself and realize that, hey, we all make mistakes. You know, some of us make bigger mistakes than others, you know, but all the hard times that, that I was living in, it was only temporary. You know, the good times never last, the bad times never last. And so, you know, I just engrossed myself in that, and slowly, as I started to do the work and started to forgive myself, I I saw the confidence start to come back, but it all started with, with me being honest with myself and really diving into things and, and opening some wounds that I didn't really want to open up. But again, it kind of goes back to what we were talking about earlier, but anything is achievable. You just got to put in the work, and sometimes the work on yourself, looking within yourself, is the hardest work to do, you know, but Yeah, I did a lot of work to regain that confidence and be able to live with the fact that I've made some pretty bad mistakes, you know, but there's nothing I can do to change that. And so how do you progress? You know, you learn from the past, but the windshield is bigger than the rearview mirror for a reason, you know, and so constantly keep those eyes forward and do the next right thing.

Dr. Tyler Hales: Yeah, I love that idea that everything's temporary, right? Like we can focus on those things, but if we understand that, hey, on to the next thing, and I can always make the better decision next, right? Or even like with goals, right? If our small goals— we can hit our next goal if we didn't achieve this one, right? Just taking it incrementally, and again that's how confidence grows, right? Every time we achieve this or do something differently, we proved to ourselves, right, hey, well, we can do this, and we have, we have the skill set to achieve this, right?

Britt Reid: Absolutely. So the, the other thing I like is, you know, part of building confidence is, is not succeeding, is failure, you know. But, uh, one of the things I've learned, like, if you, if you sit there and dwell on failure, right, you'll become paralyzed and not want to do But if you can look at failure and see, why did I fail, and learn from it— I mean, failure is the greatest learning tool we have. And all the greatest people through every, whatever, genre or business, whatever, sport, all the greatest have always had one thing in common, and they're not afraid to fail. And I got to witness that firsthand with some of the best athletes in the world. You know, here I am asking them, "Hey, I want you to try this." And these guys are doing stuff in front of millions of people and they don't want to be embarrassed, you know. And so the really— the ones that really separated themselves, the Chris Joneses, you know, the Patrick Mahomes, those types of guys are willing to try new things and fail. But they learn from those failures and they come back just a little bit better. They might fail again, but they learn from that again, and eventually they're the best of the best because they're not afraid to fail, right? And I think there's no growth in your comfort zone, and those guys are willing to get outside their comfort zone and try something new, and we see it, you know, it pays off in the end. So I don't think you can be afraid to fail, you know, and you got to learn how failure doesn't affect your confidence but enhances it.

Dr. Tyler Hales: With it.

Britt Reid: I think that's a mindset.

Dr. Tyler Hales: Yeah, confidence from failure. I think, I mean nowadays you're a phenomenal speaker. You speak all over the world.

Dr. Tyler Hales: You know, people are always asking to have you come speak. And do you ever see that kind of confidence and that expertise makes you that way because of the really hard failures that you had?

Britt Reid: Absolutely. Absolutely. I think doing the reps, you know, the more reps you can put in, the better you get and the more your confidence grows. But I can tell you this, when I first started out, my first speaking engagement was awful. It was awful. And I felt terrible about it. I was so nervous and yeah, I just was stumbling and it was not coherent. And I want to call the guy and say, hey, I'm going to come back and do this for free, you know, every year because I feel so bad. But, um, the thing I learned was, hey, I don't want to do this, this, and this in my next one, you know. And so, um, yeah, my confidence wasn't real high, um, and it probably got knocked down a couple levels after that first one, but it gave me something to work on, you know. I identified a problem, and when, you know, if you can identify a problem, now you got a chance solve the problem, you know. And so, um, I think being able to look at that and dissect it and make some adjustments, and then I learned that the next one, you know, I, I changed it after the next one. But, um, yeah, the failure, if you can look at it, dissect it, and learn from it, it can be a very good thing. Yeah, you know, it can make you just that much better.

Dr. Tyler Hales: So, yeah, well, you've come so quickly. I mean, you've like Your business has taken off, which is amazing to see.

Britt Reid: Appreciate it.

Dr. Tyler Hales: So we're gonna play a little game now, okay? It's called Whisper or Voice. Okay. So what I'm gonna do is, um, I'm gonna describe a situation. You and I will both have to call it whether whisper or voice, okay? Whisper is something still hidden, and voice is something out loud in the open.

Britt Reid: Okay.

Dr. Tyler Hales: Okay. Um, a player quietly checking into rehab in the offseason. Whisper. Whisper. I did say so too. A coach admitting to his team that he's struggling.

Britt Reid: Whisper.

Dr. Tyler Hales: Whisper?

Britt Reid: Well, to the world it would be a whisper. To the team—

Dr. Tyler Hales: Okay, I get that. Yes, keep it in-house.

Britt Reid: Yeah, keep it in-house.

Dr. Tyler Hales: Yeah, okay. I still think that it's hard to admit, right?

Britt Reid: Yeah.

Dr. Tyler Hales: Anytime we're struggling, whether it's keeping it in-house, but I have a hard time. I tell my team, you know, it's hard for me to come to them and tell them when I'm struggling because I always want to be just the leader and the example, and so if I ever show weakness, I feel like it's hard, but so anytime I think you admit any struggling, I think it's a voice. Yeah. A dad telling his teenage son he's proud of him.

Britt Reid: Voice.

Dr. Tyler Hales: Voice. I'd say so too. CEO writing a public letter about a failure.

Britt Reid: Voice.

Dr. Tyler Hales: I think it could be voice. I also think that they're right. Is there, uh, I think there's times when they could be doing it for publicity.

Britt Reid: Yeah, right, absolutely.

Dr. Tyler Hales: My, sometimes I question, right, what was the reasoning behind, yeah, doing this? Or, you know, are you doing it just to prove a point? Because most of the time CEOs are writing that because They got caught or something, right?

Britt Reid: Yeah, they're trying to do some damage control.

Dr. Tyler Hales: Yeah, damage control, right? So I hope it would be more voice, but honestly, I feel like in most of those situations—

Britt Reid: What's his actions after?

Dr. Tyler Hales: I think they're usually trying to keep it under wraps. I would say actually whisper in some areas. Someone posting their sobriety account on Instagram.

Britt Reid: It's a voice, I guess.

Dr. Tyler Hales: Yeah, I'd say a voice. A neighborhood knowing a family is in trouble but nobody knocking.

Britt Reid: Whisper.

Dr. Tyler Hales: Whisper. A group text where 3 people mention the same worry about a friend but nobody calls him.

Britt Reid: Whisper.

Dr. Tyler Hales: Yeah, cool. Yeah, I like thinking of those things. You know, I think there's times in life, right, where We can have confidence. We always act on that confidence, right? I think we think confidence is easy to have, but in certain moments we sometimes let the better of us get to us, and we end up being more of a whisper. Yeah, you know, I agree.

Britt Reid: So take some courage to step into some of those and voice your opinion.

Dr. Tyler Hales: Yeah. Cool. So Britt Reid got a question. What's the question every interviewer asks you that you're tired of, and what's the question you wish they would ask? Ooh.

Britt Reid: It gets hard when people ask about the little girl because I'm not legally allowed to talk about it, but What was it like growing up as Andy Reid's son? Man, I've been asked almost everything under the sun. I can't think of anything that I wish would have been asked. I guess I would say I wish people would focus or ask more about my mom instead of my dad. Because my dad is, yeah, he's in the public eye. But my mom is the glue that holds everything together, you know. And, uh, uh, as much as my dad's been, you know, forward-facing and had to address the media, uh, when everything happened with me, uh, and has never wavered in his support with me, uh, my mom's really been the, you know, the mama bear, the rock that is the one, "Hey, you know, you're a good person. You know, don't let this change who you are. You know, you made a mistake." And so, you know, she's been the one always in my corner, and she never really gets the publicity or the, you know, the acknowledgement that my dad gets. So I would say my mom.

Dr. Tyler Hales: Yeah, your mom is pretty incredible, right? I mean, the grandkids call her Sparkle. And I think more for different reasons. She's got amazing jewelry, but she does have a sparkle about her. And a story about your mom is when I was actually doing, starting to do more cosmetics and getting more well-known, your mom likes to humble me, right? And she calls me out, and she, you know, she had a very good point. But I think a lot of people aren't always as open, right, to like putting you in your place when you need to be. Yeah. You know, and she had a very difficult conversation when she called me out, and you know, at first I was like kind of like— Pissed? Yeah, like kind of like not the happiest with like, hey, like I feel like I've been working hard trying to create success, right? Like fighting for my family, and your mom just put me in my place, and like I had to take a step back and realize like Tammy always comes from like the heart, right?

Britt Reid: Yeah.

Dr. Tyler Hales: She's gonna tell you what she feels because she has so much experience, and she knows, and she wants— she truly wants what's best for me. She's not doing it to get anything out of it, but like again, pass it forward. I remember that moment because it made me love your mom even more. I mean, your mom, she helped raise me as well, but that moment stuck with me where it was like, keep my priorities straight, and no matter how much fame or glory or money we have, right? What's important is those little things, and so she's incredible.

Britt Reid: Yeah, she's the best, man. We have good parents. We've been blessed with amazing parents, so on both sides. We literally grew up with 4 parents, basically. Yeah, I mean, yeah, if you didn't listen to Clayne and Amber at the beach house, you were in trouble. Let's just put it that way. Claiming it was like coming from mom and dad.

Dr. Tyler Hales: So, well, it's our, our lives have always been in the same, uh, trajectory because your, your, my, your dad and my dad always planned to do everything together, right?

Britt Reid: Shoot, they tried to marry all their kids together.

Dr. Tyler Hales: That's true. Me and Crosby were going to be married for a long time. Uh, but it's interesting because of my, uh We were always talking about, oh, when's Andy gonna retire, right? And that's the question I think people ask me all the time.

Britt Reid: Oh yeah.

Dr. Tyler Hales: And it's interesting because my dad just retired 2 weeks ago, and it's interesting to finally be at that stage of life. I feel like I'm not old enough to have a dad that's retiring.

Britt Reid: I'm with you.

Dr. Tyler Hales: But to just see the impact that he has, and like the confidence that I have in him, and like you said, the way he's raised us, and Yeah, like there's so much that I'm able to pull confidence from our— from my parents and like absolutely what they've taught us, but also the lives they live and the impact they make.

Britt Reid: Yeah, I mean the way they carry themselves grounded in their faith, and it's amazing. It's amazing. Yeah, gives us something great example to work towards.

Dr. Tyler Hales: So yeah, it's like big shoes to fill, right? We got big shoes to fill.

Britt Reid: You're filling them pretty good, I'd say.

Dr. Tyler Hales: Before you go, let's bring this all together. 3 things Britt Reid said today that I can't stop thinking about. First, confidence is built on little promises you keep to yourself. Britt learned that in the hardest classroom there is. Every promise he kept gave him a little more to hold on to when the next storm came. You don't rebuild a life in one decision, you rebuild it one kept promise at a time. Second, the windshield is bigger than the rearview mirror for a reason. Britt Reid can't change his past, and he doesn't pretend he can. He said, "Some amends can't be spoken. They can only be lived. How you live from this point forward is the only apology that counts. Eyes forward. Next right thing." And third, whisper or voice. Britt Reid sent a text once, just checking in on a friend. The reply came the next day. You have no idea how close I was. 3 people worrying about the same friend in one group text is a whisper.